People Skills for Analytical Thinkers: Boost Your Communication and Advance Your Career - and Life

Telling others about your preferences makes you more self-aware.

Verbalizing your preferences makes you more aware. What exactly is my preference? Has my preference changed since I thought about it last time?

Bossing people around without being considerate of their feelings is unlikely to be successful.

everyone has a different user manual — everyone has built their own set of algorithms.

ask if they are willing to take your algorithms into account and say that you realize that they may have different preferences.

I would overthink every word I wanted to say. “Is

I would overthink every word I wanted to say.

I would overthink every word I wanted to say. “Is this valuable enough for the conversation?”

I found out there is a lot of value in sharing more context instead of one-word answers.

there is a lot of value in sharing more context instead of one-word answers.

I’m not an attention-seeker when I tell people more about myself.

I also realized I’m not an attention-seeker when I tell people more about myself.

there is a lot of value in sharing more context instead of one-word answers. I also realized I’m not an attention-seeker when I tell people more about myself. That’s why I started to talk more without overthinking every word. As a result, I started planting more conversational seeds, and I became less mysterious, more interesting. I didn’t just give the “correct” answer. Instead, I gave an answer that told others more about me.

When people don’t know about your algorithms, they will make assumptions — and that’s what we want to avoid.

Receiving feedback isn’t easy, but giving feedback in an effective way is difficult too.

a specific compliment has more emotional impact on the other person.

most people think in a way that’s totally different from your way of thinking.

most people think in a way that’s totally different from your way of thinking. They see and experience the world from a totally different perspective. Other people don’t just look through a different pair of glasses; they see things from a totally different angle too. This

most people think in a way that’s totally different from your way of thinking. They see and experience the world from a totally different perspective. Other people don’t just look through a different pair of glasses; they see things from a totally different angle too.

mistakes I’ve made. Many, many times I didn’t understand other people and I made assumptions about them. This only drove me further away from understanding and getting the results I was looking for.