How to Raise a Healthy Gamer: Break Bad Screen Habits, End Power Struggles, and Transform Your Relationship with Your Kids

If you aren’t willing to be open to changing your mind, why would your child be?

The whole point is that we need to prepare our child to make mature decisions—but making mature decisions can’t happen unless we actually let them make the decision.

alliance building and alliance protecting are critical. Try to set boundaries together; otherwise you’ll find yourself back where you were at the beginning of this book—on opposite teams, constantly fighting and frustrated. You will lose the trust you’ve carefully built up, and you’ll be back on the other side of the wall from your child, unable to communicate.

If you are on the attack, they will be on the defensive. Instead, work together to learn about and better understand their behavior.

The goal of these weeks is to discover what your child cares about, so that you can use that as your guiding star when setting limits. You are going to develop boundaries to help them achieve their goals, not yours.

Lay out your concerns—not to convince them, but simply to state your point of view. Invite them to reflectively listen.