Happy: Finding joy in every day and letting go of perfect

I’ve bitched about people to feel accepted in certain circles. I’ve gone along with others’ opinions so as not to rock the boat.

Follow what you believe to be true and it will always lead you back to that place of happiness and light.

If we don’t want people to make snap judgements about us, then we shouldn’t make snap judgements about them.

Rather than view what they are doing as wrong, I think it’s better to try and see it from their viewpoint.

We all get a slight kick from pointing out other people’s mistakes in life,

Doing what truly floats your boat will always allow you to be the most authentic version of YOU and in turn feel a lot happier in life.

Being free to make choices is what makes life exciting.

Having choice is the ultimate freedom, but sometimes we forget we have it, especially when life is tough and change and choice seem to go out of the window.

One amazing example of the power of choice is recognizing that we can choose HOW to react to situations.

the way we react to any given situation may feel subconscious or like a reflex, but in fact we can choose how to react: in a positive way, a negative way, or not at all.

If my house is a mess I feel disorientated and OUT of control.

I can backtrack and work out where this rage is truly located and I can step outside the fire pit, and react differently. This doesn’t mean I can extinguish the fury immediately, but I’m getting there.

I see now that getting angry is my choice, so when I can, I choose not to let it rule me.

I get angry when I feel OUT of control, whereas I could choose not to feel the anger and be instantly IN control.

Even though these overriding feelings may seem like they’re running the show, if you make changes, you can learn to live with your natural Achilles heel without letting them take over.

I think the first step is working out WHY you jump to that reaction.

When someone says something untrue or mean about me I can again choose to use that millisecond of time to delve back to where this is really hurting. I’m taking it personally rather than seeing that the person who is judging me is perhaps just lashing out due to their own issues.

ask yourself how bad would it be if you just sat with those feelings and made peace with them,

If you know there is room for change, then what is stopping you?

Decide which tiny stepping stones can set you in the right direction, but won’t feel like a shock to the system.