How To Be A Stoic

Follow nature. That is, apply reason to social life.

Dichotomy of control. Some things are under our control, and others are not

wisdom: Navigating complex situations in the best available fashion Courage: Doing the right thing, both physically and morally, under all circumstances Justice: Treating every human being—regardless of his or her stature in life—with fairness and kindness Temperance: Exercising moderation and self-control in all spheres of life

actually, Arrian’s) Enchiridion: 1. Examine your impressions.

Examine your impressions.

our initial reactions to events, people, and what we are being told—by stepping back to make room for rational deliberation, avoiding rash emotional reactions, and asking whether whatever is being thrown at us is under our control

our initial reactions to events, people, and what we are being told—by stepping back to make room for rational deliberation, avoiding rash emotional reactions, and asking whether whatever is being thrown at us is under our control (in which case we should act on it) or isn’t (in which case we should regard it as not of our concern).

And though it is certainly human to seek sympathy, even that response—from a Stoic perspective—is an imposition on others in order to feel better ourselves, in a situation in which, moreover, others cannot do much more than pity us.

Remind yourself of the impermanence of things.

we should constantly remind ourselves of just how precious our loved ones are precisely because they may soon be gone. Anyone who has lost someone they were close

we should constantly remind ourselves of just how precious our loved ones are precisely because they may soon be gone.

regret is about things we can no longer change and the right attitude is to learn from our experiences, not dwell on decisions that we are not in a position to alter.

The reserve clause. “Whenever planning an action,8 mentally rehearse what the plan entails.

Remind yourself of the impermanence of things. “In the case of particular things7 that delight you, or benefit you, or to which you have grown attached, remind yourself of what they are.

Examine your impressions. “So make a practice5 at once of saying to every strong impression: ‘An impression is all you are, not the source of the impression.’

image of people who are too fragile to withstand even minor challenges in life because they let themselves be fragile.

reminding us that we may set out with a particular goal in mind but that events may not go the way we wish.

we may set out with a particular goal in mind but that events may not go the way we wish.

Imagine a dog who is leashed to a cart. The cart begins to move forward, in whatever direction the driver, but certainly not the dog, chooses. Now, the leash is long enough that the dog has two options: either he can gingerly follow the general direction of the cart, over which he has no control, and thereby enjoy the ride and even have time to explore his surroundings and attend to some of his own business, or he can stubbornly resist the cart with all his might and end up being dragged, kicking and screaming, for the rest of the trip, accumulating much pain and frustration and wasting his time in a futile and decidedly unpleasant effort. We humans are, of course, the dog: the universe keeps churning according to God’s will

you do have some room to maneuver, while you are alive and well, and can choose to enjoy the ride, even as you remain aware of the constraints you have and know that whatever you wish to accomplish always comes with a big caveat: Fate (the cart driver, God, the universe) permitting.